Loss of a mother
When a friend loses their mum
There is nothing you can say that fixes it, and they don't expect you to. What helps is showing up, saying her name, and remembering her with them. Here is what to write — and a gift that keeps her name somewhere it stays.
Give a brick in her memory
What to say to someone who has lost their mother
Losing a mother changes the shape of a person's whole life, at any age. People often worry about saying the wrong thing and end up saying nothing at all. A few honest lines are better than silence.
- I'm so sorry about your mum. She was always so kind to me.
- I keep thinking about the way she used to greet everyone at the door. I'll miss her.
- There are no words. I just want you to know I'm here, now and in the weeks after.
- I didn't know your mum well, but I know how much she meant to you. I'm thinking of you.
Use her name if you knew it. Grieving people often say the hardest part is when everyone stops mentioning the person they lost.
What helps in the weeks after
The first days are full of people. It is the weeks after the funeral that get quiet. A message on an ordinary Tuesday, a meal left at the door, or a call on her birthday can mean more than flowers on the day.
A lasting sympathy gift helps with that quiet, too — something that is still there when the cards have been put away.
Their certificate
A gift that remembers her
Dedicate a brick on the Wall of Forever to their mum: her name, her years and a few words. Your friend gets it by email, with a private link and a certificate in their name to print and keep.
Write it yourself, or leave it blank so they can add her photo and their own words when they are ready.
An example — the names are made up.
What they receive
Her place on the wall
Her name, her years and a photo, on a brick that stays.
A private link
By email, a few minutes after you pay. No account needed.
A certificate
In their name, to frame or keep with her photographs.
Candles from family
Anyone they share it with can light a candle and leave a note.
A QR card
If you write the brick yourself, print a small card for inside your sympathy card.
No reminders
Paid once. Nothing to renew, nothing that expires.
Read more
For how gifting works and other ideas, see memorial gifts. For more words to use in the card, see heartfelt condolences. For a family that wants one place where everyone can remember her together, see the online condolence book or an online memorial.
Write her brick
Her name, her years and a few words. You add who it is for on the next step.
What is a good sympathy gift for the loss of a mother?
Something that remembers her, not just the loss. A brick with her name and a few words keeps her somewhere the family can visit.
What should I write in the card?
Say you are sorry, use her name, and share one memory if you have one. A few honest lines are enough.
Can my friend add her photo?
Yes. Leave the brick blank and they add the photo and words themselves, once, when they are ready.
How does it reach them?
By email, a few minutes after you pay, with a private link and a certificate. They do not need an account.
Is it physical?
No, nothing is posted. It is a brick on the Wall of Forever, an online wall, with a certificate to print.
How much is it?
From €5 for a single brick, paid once.
Keep her name somewhere it stays
A brick in her memory, for someone who misses her.
Give a brick in her memory