Christmas · remembering them
Your first Christmas without them
The decorations come out of the same box and their stocking is still in it. A brick on the Wall of Forever gives them a place this Christmas — their name, your words, and a candle anyone in the family can light, wherever they are.
Write their brick
Why the first Christmas without them is so hard
Christmas is built out of the same rituals every year: the same songs, the same food, the same seats at the table. The first Christmas without them is the year every one of those rituals has a gap in it, and nobody quite knows whether to talk about it or not.
There is no right way to get through it. But many families find it easier when there is one small, deliberate way to include the person who isn't there — something you do on purpose, instead of a silence everyone is trying not to notice.
A place for them, on purpose
A brick on the Wall of Forever is one of those small things. Their photo, their name, their years and a few lines from you, on an endless wall people visit from their phones. It takes a few minutes, and it stays.
Some families write it together on Christmas Eve, passing the phone round the table. Some send the link to the cousins who couldn't fly home, so everyone can visit the same place on the same morning. Anyone who opens it can light a candle and leave a note, so by Boxing Day it is no longer one person's grief — it is everyone's memory, in one place.
If you'd like to read more first, see how an online memorial works.
On the wall
Say their name this year
It doesn't have to be a eulogy. The best bricks are often one true line — the smell of the kitchen, the song they always ruined, the chair nobody sits in.
Write it the way you would say it to them.
Small ways to include them at Christmas
Light a candle together
Open their brick on Christmas morning and light a candle — from the sofa, or from the other side of the world.
Let everyone add a line
Share the link with the family. Each person can leave a note of their own on the brick.
Use their photo
The one from last Christmas, paper crown and all. It goes right on the brick.
Keep a certificate by the tree
Print the certificate and put it where their card used to go. Its QR code opens the brick.
Make it bigger
For a family photo, set up to 16 bricks together and run the picture across them.
Come back next year
It is still there next Christmas, and the one after, with every candle and note kept.
For someone else's first Christmas
If it is a friend facing their first Christmas without a parent or a partner, you can give the brick instead: choose "A gift", write it for them or leave it blank for them to fill in, and they get it by email. See memorial gifts for how that works, or a memorial brick for what goes on one.
Write their brick
Their name, their years, and what you want to say to them this Christmas. You can see it take shape as you write.
Can family in other countries visit it?
Yes. Send them the link. Anyone can open the brick from anywhere, light a candle and leave a note, with no account and no app.
Can we write it together?
Yes. Write it on one phone or laptop, together, and preview it as you go before choosing its spot on the wall.
Will the candles stay?
Yes. Candles and notes stay on the brick, and the brick keeps its place on the wall indefinitely.
Can I give one to a grieving friend?
Yes. Choose “A gift” when you place it. They get an email with a private link and a certificate in their name.
Is this a physical memorial?
No. Nothing is engraved or posted. It is a brick on the Wall of Forever, an online wall, with a certificate you can print.
How much is it?
From €5 for a single brick, paid once.
Give them a place this Christmas
One brick, paid once, kept on the wall for good.
Write their brick